No one wants to deal with infidelity or the fall out of it. But sometimes life brings unexpected matters, and that can arrive in the form of spotting an unusual text on your partner’s phone or seeing them be ‘just a little too friendly’ with someone in their inner circles. These instances evoke a whole bunch of emotions, including uncertainty about how to deal with the situation at hand.
If you have your suspicions, it’s important not to jump the gun immediately. This kind of situation needs to be handled appropriately, maturely and with full clarity. Even though your emotions are likely running at a high and you feel a sense of anger burning up inside you, dealing with these occurrences while you’re filled with rage won’t get you far. Instead, take some time to cool off and analyse what’s going on before you get started with the next steps.
So, in this article, we’re going to discuss when and when not to think your partner may be having an affair.
The red flags
If your partner is actually cheating, there’s usually a few tell-tale signs or patterns that indicate this might be going on. From behaviour changes to unusual actions, it’s important to take the time to analyse their day-to-day movements and attitudes towards their so-called ‘everyday routine’.
Here are a few signs that might indicate something is going on behind the scenes.
- Your sex life has changed and there feels like there is less intimacy or connection between you two.
- Old habits (like saying ‘I love you’) stop occurring.
- They take up a new hobby that they show a lot of interest in.
- They work more and more hours.
- Your partner seems to suddenly have a ‘wandering eye’.
- Their attitude has changed and they might even come off as more negative.
- They may exhibit indicators of low self-esteem.
- Your partner seems overly critical of you.
- They get defensive if you mention anything about an affair.
- They have increased the amount they lie about situations.
- They’re indifferent.
When they probably aren’t cheating
It’s easy to assume the worst. We’re all guilty of it. But before you bark up the wrong tree, make sure you have the facts in hand. Sometimes certain signs may not be related to cheating at all and might have everything to do with something entirely different – like stressful workloads or mental illness.
Other cases that might not indicate infidelity include:
- Your partner is open about who they are talking to and the relationships they have formed with people in their life (outside of you).
- They do what they’ve told you they are going to do.
- They’re excited to see you no matter how long apart you were.
- Their phones and social media accounts may still be private, and they don’t exactly want you snooping around their personal business – this is normal.
- They appreciate the appearance of others, and that’s okay. They only have eyes for you, though.
- They have a few really close friends (potentially of the opposite sex).
- Sex to them isn’t just sex.
No matter what you feel the situation is, the absolute number one rule is to speak with your partner and communicate how you’re feeling in a respectful and open manner. Remember that tensions can sometimes run high and interrupt the way you’re trying to relay the message, so think carefully about the words you want to put forward and work on keeping a transparent relationship healthy and alive at all times.
However, if the signs are there and you do feel like your spouse is cheating, a professional like a private detective can help you get the facts and set the record straight. Speak to the team at Precise Investigation to understand the real situation at hand now.
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